We’ve all seen it — the clinging arms, the big tears, the wobbling lip. Sometimes, it’s the child who’s struggling at morning drop-off. Sometimes, it’s the parent. And often, it’s both.
Saying goodbye can be one of the toughest moments in the school day — especially when your child is feeling anxious, emotional, or simply not ready to separate. At Rohan Woods, we see this every year, especially in the early days. And as parents ourselves, we understand just how hard it can be to walk away when your child is upset.
So what can you do when drop-off is difficult?
1. Validate the Feelings — Without Dwelling
It’s okay to say, “I know this is hard” or “You’re feeling a little nervous today.” Acknowledge their emotions, but try not to linger too long in the moment. Children take their cues from us. The more confident and calm you are, the more secure they feel.
2. Keep Goodbyes Short, Sweet, and Consistent
As tempting as it is to stay and soothe until everything feels okay, long goodbyes often make it harder for kids to transition. A short, predictable routine — a hug, a wave, a “see you after snack!” — helps build trust. The more consistent your exit, the more your child learns: Mom or Dad always comes back.
3. Don’t Sneak Away
It may seem like a good idea to slip out unnoticed, but it can break your child’s trust. Let them know you’re leaving — even if it causes tears — so they build resilience and understanding.
4. Trust the Teachers (We’ve Got You!)
Our educators are experts in transitions. We’ve seen all the feelings and are here to gently guide your child into their day. In most cases, those tears stop within minutes, and your child is soon playing, exploring, and smiling.
If you’re ever unsure, just ask for a quick update — we’re happy to reassure you with a mid-morning message or photo.
5. Give Yourself Grace
Drop-off struggles aren’t a reflection of poor parenting. They’re a sign of a strong bond — and of a child learning how to navigate the world with independence. That’s a big deal. Be kind to yourself. Breathe deeply. And know that you’re doing a wonderful job.
The Good News? It Gets Easier.
Each day your child grows more familiar with the classroom, the routine, and the people who care for them. Before long, drop-offs become high-fives and cheerful goodbyes.
And when you see your child’s confidence grow — when you hear the stories they bring home and the pride in their voice — you’ll know that those hard goodbyes were building something beautiful.
Need a Helping Hand? Try These Books About Goodbyes and Hellos
Reading together can help children process emotions and feel more secure. Here are some trusted, highly rated books that help with separation anxiety and teach the comforting truth: grown-ups always come back.
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The Kissing Hand by Audrey Penn
A gentle, classic story about a mother raccoon reassuring her little one with a special kiss in the palm. -
Llama Llama Misses Mama by Anna Dewdney
A rhyming, relatable book that shows it’s okay to miss home—and that moms always return. -
Owl Babies by Martin Waddell
Three little owls worry when their mother leaves the nest, only to discover she always comes back. -
Bye-Bye Time by Elizabeth Verdick
Part of the Toddler Tools series, this book walks young children through saying goodbye with confidence. -
I’ll Always Come Back by Steve Metzger
A reassuring read that reinforces a parent’s promise to return after a day apart. -
The Invisible String by Patrice Karst
A beautiful, comforting story about the unbreakable connections between people who love each other—even when they’re apart. A wonderful book for all ages.
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Bonus: Sing It Out
Sometimes a little tune says it best. Daniel Tiger’s “Grown-Ups Come Back” is a simple, powerful song that helps reinforce the message in a way kids remember.
Want to talk more about transitions or share your own morning routine tips? We’re here to help — community is one of our greatest strengths at Rohan Woods.
